I’ve been pondering the idea of control – or the lack thereof – since my electricity began shutting down for days at a time due to the horrendous winds and fires here in the L.A. area. We all love to feel in control. I don’t feel in control – haven’t for many days now. And […]
I frequently advise folks to “live in the moment” or “embrace the now” or some other mindfulness related recommendation. But what does that actually mean? And, more interestingly, is there even a “moment” to live in? Thanks mostly to Einstein, scientists currently believe that space and time are somehow unified, and that the perception, and
As the years persistently roll along – I celebrated 70 of them in October – I’ve become both appreciative and increasingly conflicted about each approaching “new year.” I understand that merely accumulating years does not guaranty an increase in wisdom. Still, I’m egotistical enough to think I’ve amassed a bit of insight along my journey.
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Life is unpredictable and often – in fact, mostly – a struggle. Characterizing life as difficult is not succumbing to a “negative outlook,” as some life coaches will insist. No, admitting and fully accepting that life involves suffering is the key to controlling your own emotional and behavioral reactions to life’s twists and turns. Although
Humans ripen in 19 years. At age 19, barring biological challenges or excessively deleterious conditioning, our ferocious hormonal transformation gives rise to a strong, energized, enthusiastic pre-adult. At 19, we eat more, love more, feel more, and crave more than at any other age. At 19, we feel invincible. At 19, ego imprints genetically preprogramed
Mindsets are our underlying beliefs about the nature and function of reality and of ourselves. These mindsets, most of which are unconscious and established during childhood, largely determine how we experience our lives. If your mindsets are fixed and negative, like “I suck at math” or “cancer is a death sentence,” then your ability to
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Early on, our lizard brain struggled mightily to outgrow its survival obsession long enough to recognize its own reflection. As our prefrontal cortex grew, humans developed increasingly impressive ingenuity, cunning, adaptability, and awareness. Regrettably, our budding brain also begat Ego – a maladaptive byproduct of intellectual awakening that remains tied to our reptilian survival edict.
Did you start working on your New Year’s resolutions yet? Did you make those resolutions specific? Did you write them down? Did you set a time limit? Did you tell someone so that you would feel accountable? I hate to be a Negative Nelly, but surveys have indicated that about 80% of you will abandon
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Greetings, fellow Late Bloomers! I’m baaaaack… As I hope a few of you noticed, I’ve been relatively silent for much of 2021. I spent most of the year finishing a draft of my forthcoming book: Delayed Onset Living: Notes from a Late Bloomer, which I hope to launch in the coming months. I thought it
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I’ve been alive for quite some time. And yes, 2020 was definitely a year to remember – one filled with more unexpected twists and turns than any I can recall.
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